The Role of the Mother in the Family

THE ROLE OF THE MOTHER IN THE FAMILY ARRANGEMENT

    From the origin of the first human pair, the role of the wife can never be undermined.the man was lonely and alone, the woman was made for him as a helper and a companion.the holy books have in all respect given women responsibilities, roles that when accomplished will bring fulfillment in a family. life on earth can only be complete when the woman adds
or contribute to the procreation circle.The bible for instance recognizes the woman and accords her importance when it said that a man will leave his father and mother and must stick to his wife and they will become one flesh.



HOW IS THE IMPORTANCE OF WOMEN EMPHASIZED?

The importance of women is emphasized by the enormous duties they owe to their family and the society at large, a woman who fails to fulfill her role in the family will tamper the joy of the society in a number of ways. to buttress this point, The 26th President of the United States,Theodore Roosevelt stated:"It is the tasks connected with the home that are the fundamental tasks of humanity... if the mother does not do her duty, there will either be no next generation, or a next generation that is worse than none at all."

WHAT IS INVOLVED IN BEING A MOTHER?

Being a mother involves more than just becoming pregnant and giving birth to a child, it involves, preparedness, readiness, self-sacrifice, commitment and love. the woman must be prepared for the task of being a wife and a
mother because its demanding and time consuming, but its more fulfilling than any secular work or profession especially when its done right.

She must be ready and expectant when a baby is on the way. the task of raising a baby needs careful thought and readiness.She must be able to offer herself for her family, her children needs her love and attention at all times, and the father too needs care,love and attention, so she should be willing to attend to all these needs when they call.

Commitment is needed because the early stage of catering for a family might seem frustrating especially when things are not clear or going on smoothly in the family. In March 8, 2003, then UN Secretary-General, Kofi Annan said: "Study after study has shown that there is no effective development strategy in which women do not play a central role. When women are fully involved, the benefits can be seen immediately: families are healthier and better fed: their income, savings and reinvestment go up." this statement confirms that the society at large can never do without our women, so we appreciate you women and also praise your effort.

THE BASIC ROLES OF WOMEN:

the roles of Women(Mother) include but are not limited to the following:
1.She takes care of her children and her household.
2.she spends more time with the children, so she acts like the teacher, and disciplinarian
during the formative years and the early stages of life.
3.She is the home keeper, though some time women are allowed to work so that the family can
make ends meet, in that case the role of the woman adds up and the family can plan how
to lessen it.
4.She is meant to be a helper or a complement of the man in all areas and circumstances that is worthwhile.
5.She builds her home up in love and cares for her household even at the expense of her own
freedom or time.
6.She sets reasonable standards for her children in the absence of her husband.

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Reasons Why Men Cheat on Their Wifes and What the Woman Can Do

WHAT YOU CAN DO WHEN YOUR HUSBAND IS UNFAITHFULWomen independence and divorce has been advocated by so many so-called experts, the resultant
effect of it has been an increase in the rate of divorce, family breakup, misunderstanding,
and a menace to the society. and it can cause unfaithfulness or cheating from the man.



Women independence advocates that the woman has equal right with the man, and so therefore
shares equal power with her husband whom the originator of marriage asked them to subject
themselves to. though the woman should not be battered, abused, or controlled like a little
baby or a toy, she should also obey and respect her husband as the head of the family.
Women who truly wants to succeed in their given marital assignment, and live a happier
more fulfilled life of accomplishment, will never practice the theory of independence, which
might seem like a rebellious or insubordinate act. Running a family though challenging, is easy
and fulfilling. when the wife plays her role very well,she gets the credit and joy of it.

WHEN THE MAN IS UNFAITHFUL

In this case, it could be heartbreaking, and tempting. some relationships and marriages crash
when a mate is unfaithful. its always easier for the man to cheat on the woman than the woman.
we will try to look at the cause, and steps that can be taken to prevent or stop it as the case
may be.
Though its heartbreaking, but it should not tear the family apart, as the woman try to reason and
figure out what could have led to that unholy act. every man is a potential cheat by nature,due to
their polygamous nature what i mean in this sense is, men are easily given to sex, even to people
or girls that you would have thought that they would never have sex it. a man is created with huge
urge for sex and love and when they are offered one free, might find it difficult to resist, some do,
but its always difficult. only about 5 in 100 men can resist serious seduction.

These is not an excuse for the men to go on misbehaving because they could still have resisted the
urge or temptation, The possible reasons that can make a man give in to seduction easily might
include the following, though some men have a problem when it comes to sex:

When they are overly starved of sex from their wife:
some women when they make demands from their spouse and due to some reasons he is not able to provide
or meet their demands, they immediately deny him of sex till he is able to provide or meet their demands.
though this seems like a peaceful protest, but it can tear a strong family apart. men have a burning
and strong desire for the opposite sex, either for love or sex. men who have been starved and happen
to get a seemingly caring cheerful giver might find solace in her arms and comfort in her bosom.
starving your man is not the answer to the demands you make, but even a potential axe that can tear
your family into pieces. give him some time maybe he doesn't have the means to meet your
immediate demands but he will when you in spite of everything still show him love, care and
respect.

Another likely reason for unfaithfulness might be nagging:
Some women nag their husbands to an extent that they are afraid to come home. men love quiet times
and cool moment, when you nag and complain or even shout at them, you are indirectly asking them
to look for somewhere else that is cool and welcoming. sometimes they will only go to bars and beer
parlors, and one serious risk with those kind of places are girls without pride who will do anything
to gain what you loose, if you give them the chance, then they will win.

Another reason might be that you are losing your beauty:
Some women when they marry they throw all caution to the air, start eating anyhow and adding unnecessary
weight, some don't even put on those sexy things they use to wear that attracted their husbands at first.
For the fact that you are married does not mean you are always married, this is the time for you to show
him that you are ever young, still that beautiful sweet sixteen he fell in love with, he might not have any
reason to fool around outside his marriage if you possess all he is about going to look for.

Another painful reason is that some men like varieties:
Those kind of men, no matter how you look, do or even behave, they still will cheat on you. in such a case,
you should not abandon your home and run, instead you have to make him change without fighting.
When your man is cheating on you, he might not have the courage to look you in the eye, he
might even start avoiding you technically. when you find out he is cheating on you, don't do
anything stupid, don't confront him, don't let him know that you already know he is cheating.
don't act like you careless, still try as hard as you can to show him love and respect, try to
if you can, increase the love you show him, try to appeal to his conscience. if he knows you know
that he is cheating, he wont need to hide or act secretive, his conscience might die and he
will be worse than ever. try to find out his reason for sleeping outside his matrimonial home
and try to figure out how to help him stop this unholy act.

When you have a misunderstanding with your spouse, always take the initiative to sue for peace
apologize, men like being proud, they might not want to make the first move. men act like
babies, to win your man and save your marriage, you must see your man as one of your baby
in fact see him as your little baby that needs pampering, care, love, and attention. when you
do, you will for sure reap the benefit in that your husband will always love you and be proud
of you, and i tell you one truth, he will never cheat on you, you know why? because men have
conscience and will find it very difficult to hurt the one that gives off everything to please
them. try hard to ginger your husbands conscience and keep it awake so that he wont ever let
a stranger in.
The above suggestions if applied will surely enhance the love in your marriage, and ensure
you a happy family life.

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