Reasons Why Men Cheat on Their Wifes and What the Woman Can Do

WHAT YOU CAN DO WHEN YOUR HUSBAND IS UNFAITHFUL
Women independence and divorce has been advocated by so many so-called experts, the resultant
effect of it has been an increase in the rate of divorce, family breakup, misunderstanding,
and a menace to the society. and it can cause unfaithfulness or cheating from the man.

Women independence advocates that the woman has equal right with the man, and so therefore
shares equal power with her husband whom the originator of marriage asked them to subject
themselves to. though the woman should not be battered, abused, or controlled like a little
baby or a toy, she should also obey and respect her husband as the head of the family.
Women who truly wants to succeed in their given marital assignment, and live a happier
more fulfilled life of accomplishment, will never practice the theory of independence, which
might seem like a rebellious or insubordinate act. Running a family though challenging, is easy
and fulfilling. when the wife plays her role very well,she gets the credit and joy of it.

How to Maintain Commitment in Your Marriage

What Is Commitment?
Some people think that it springs from a sense of duty but it takes more than that. Commitment can be likened to the mortar that binds the bricks of a sturdy house. Mortar is made from a combination of ingredients such as sand, cement, and water. Similarly, commitment is formed from a combination of factors such as, trust and friendship. But that bond can equally be weakened, lets find out how.

The Challenges:
Commitment in itself requires a lot of hard work, and self Sacrifice, and readiness to forgo your own preferences so to please your mate. Although some might think that the idea of pleasing the other partner than oneself and giving without asking back is outdated and out of fashion, but if your family happiness is important to you, then the principle of self sacrifice will not be option to you. Marriage also demands a lot of hard work and patience, in some cases even marriage mates who are unselfish do not always acknowledge each other anxieties or value their mates sacrifices. it could be disastrous because when a couple fails to show appreciation for each other, their marriage is bound to cause them tribulation in their flesh than it would otherwise. so in other for your marriage to survive hard times and thrive smoothly, you need to develop a long term view of your relationship. But you might be committed to your relationship and your mate is not, so how can you equally make your mate to be committed to the relationship as well?
How To Strengthen Commitment

What to Look for in a Mate When Preparing for Marriage

Everyone has choices and what they will want their mate to possess. some though have made so many mistakes in setting unrealistic standards and these standards and unnecessary choices has made a lot of people who are of marriage age remain unmarried.
It is not wrong to set standards or have choices as explained above, but the point is making a reasonable and realistic choice is a great key to finding a suitable mate as well as happiness in a marriage. when you approach someone of the opposite sex whom you find attractive or that you want to settle down with, feel free to approach the person after you have done proper self scrutiny, you might start by asking yourself, Is marriage really my intention? you need to be sure before you proceed because it is very wrong to toil with someones emotion. there are some cases you approach someone of the opposite sex with sincere intention and the response you get is negative. in that case you do not have to force yourself on someone or become pushy or even beg someone to pity you and fall in love. if that should happen it can later lead to frustration, so do not persist to the point of being objectionable, remember that the other person has a right to make choices too and you might not be the persons choice.
Compatibility: you obviously need a mate that is compatible with you. you do not

Important Questions to Consider Before You Say "I DO"

The wedding day is usually a very happy and celebrated day in a persons life and the major keyword for that day is "I DO" which signifies an agreement to leave your parents and stick to your new partner and that agreement is supposed to be binding for as long as you both are alive.
Every one alive especially women loves to be loved and one way they can be very much assured of your love is when you are ready and willing to take them down the aisle, some times some might accept to marry for the wrong reason and end up regretting their decision and in most cases it leads to seperation or even a divorce. there are some certain things you need to confirm before you go ahead to say i do.
 Things to Consider Before the Agreement:
1.What are The

3-year-old Boy Abducted In Calabar Church

A three-year-old boy, Victor Offiong Edem, was abducted by an unknown person at the Assemblies of God’s Church 14, Nnamdi Azikiwe Street, Calabar South during Sunday service, December 15, 2013, reports have said.

According to reports, the boy’s father, Mr Offiong Edem, a staff of the College of Health Technology, Calabar said he took his family to the church on the thanksgiving Sunday to thank God for his goodness to him in 2013.

After the service, he went to work and left Victor with his wife, Angelica and his other son, Samuel but was later informed that Victor had gone missing.

“I do work on Sundays. Soon after giving my offering, I went to work leaving behind my wife, my first son and Victor in the church only to be called later that Victor had gone missing.”

Preparing For Pregnancy

Almost every woman is blessed with the capacity to bear a child at least once in her lifetime. It is considered to be one of the greatest gifts that a woman can give her husband. Bearing a child would make the couple more closer together, and at this certain point in their lives they can actually call themselves a family. Upon learning that the woman is pregnant, most couples enthusiastically start planning for her pregnancy and eventual childbirth.

When talking about pregnancy, it is important to know about preconception issues regarding on giving birth. A check up with the physician or midwife would be advisable for the woman in order to face facts on childbirth. Physical preparation is needed for giving birth, since this could really change the normal function of the woman's body. A caregiver would be helpful in preparing the woman's body in conceiving, and also impart information concerning potential problems in pregnancy. Anxiety is felt at this point, since the woman would really have to follow certain precautions in order to conceive a healthy baby. By seeking advice regarding on preconception, safety, lifestyle changes, prenatal vitamins, and the importance of folic acid, the woman could really prepare for giving birth.

In preparing for pregnancy, a change in the woman's lifestyle is needed. Smoking cigarettes is a definite no-no, and also the consumption of alcohol. These addictions can affect the health of both the woman and her unborn baby. A woman might need to lose or gain weight, according to her present weight relative to her height and build. Being too fat or too thin might bring complications for both the woman and the baby. A good start in preparing for childbirth would be to establish a fitness regime for the period of the pregnancy. Asking the physician about nutrition and working out would be recommended for possible questions regarding exercise and food intake.

Learning more about the woman's body while on the early stages of giving birth is essential for proper knowledge of the situation. Various parts of a woman's body have specific roles when it comes to pregnancy. Certain disorders from both prospective parents should be discussed with the physician for  additional health background information. Anxiety and stress is also felt by the couple since this is a very critical stage for the woman. Preconception stress is normal in women about to give birth, considering factors such as scheduling, sexuality, and self esteem, among many others.

When preparing for pregnancy, the couple should be confident enough to know how to handle a child. Knowledge of early pregnancy symptoms are also important since these are signs that giving birth would happen in due time. When the couple feels that they are ready, then a visit to the Obstetrician/Gynecologist (OBGYN) would help in gleaning more information on pregnancy. At this point, the couple can make use of a pregnancy calendar in order to follow the due course of giving birth.
Anxiety is often felt by women when they know that they are pregnant. Feelings of worry and tension are usual signs that shows her being anxious about giving birth. But by spending time with your husband, regular visits to the OBGYN, finding time to relax and unwind, with good exercise, anxiety should not be a problem at all. All you have to worry about is what to name the baby?

How to Build Your Self Confidence

                              How to Build Your Self Confidence
What is Self Confidence? self confidence put in a simple way is, assurance: freedom from doubt; belief in yourself and your abilities.

MOST youths struggle with uncertainties about their appearance and their abilities, as well as how they measure up to others. they can not even handle unfair remarks from their peers they feel so unhappy and insecure, all these are signs of lack of self confidence.

How Can You Boost Your Self Confidence?
There are practical ways by which you can boost your self confidence, the steps needs to applied in your day to day life for your self confidence to be boosted.




1. Appreciate Yourself: Granted, you might  not look too physically attractive or possess much skill or training,  but its never true that you are not at all attractive or good looking or even possess some exceptional skills which other of your peers may not possess. first, although you might have limitations, try and analyze your strength.Don’t tell yourself such things as ‘I always fail’ and ‘I never do anything right.’ Such overstatements only keep you down. Instead, acknowledge your shortcomings but also recognize your strengths.

2. Choose Your Friends Wisely: Some people are good in criticizing or finding fault in other people, they never see good in other people. instead of making friends with such people and trying to fit in to their perfectionist kind of lifestyle, try and make friends with those who look inwards to see the good you can offer and who will point out your mistakes where necessary but will never keep emphasizing on them.

3. Give of Yourself: You can also apply yourself to good and kind deeds. reasonable people will love and appreciate you naturally and sincerely when you offer or add value to their lives irrespective of how you look or your possible shortcomings. when you add value to someones life you will find internal joy and happiness.

4. Bounce Back from Your Mistakes: Its normal for us to make mistakes as imperfect humans that we are. when that happens, do not dwell on your mistakes, learn from it and try and move on possitively, dwelling on a mistake can affect your self confidence negatively.

5. Open Up: Try to open up or be cheerful at all times, there maybe times your peers might make fun of you or even say sarcastic things or make unfair remark, if people around laugh at you, do not feel bad outwardly no matter how it hurts, if it is possible join them and laugh too. your peers will continue making fun of you if they notice that you feel bad or get hurt by their remarks, but they will leave you alone if they notice that you even laugh more than them, then when it is wise you can take your leave if you are not comfortable being around them.

6. Dress Up and Go UP: It has been noted that dressing when it fits can boost your self confidence. do not dress to please your peers you may end up wearing what might not fit you  and that might cause more embarrassment. make sure your clothes are neat and worn properly according to the occasion.

These few steps will help you boost your self confidence and help you see things as they truly are. always remember that the greatest love of all is learning to love yourself.




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How to Prepare for a Successful Marriage (part 3)Making courtship work

How Can You Make a Success of Courtship?Read (part 1)&(part 2)
To make a success of courtship, you must make sure that your moral conduct is above reproach. sex is for two people who are married and should be kept in its proper place. relationships based on sex and money in most cases do not eventually work out. you must never cheapen or displease yourself because you want to get married, always maintain your intergrity. sex is best enjoyed on your wedding night when it has been waited for and endured over time.Be careful that displays of affection do not escalate into unclean conduct or even fornication.
Still there are some relationships that might have started off a bit wrongly, its not that every relationship must fail or not lead to marriage because the parties involved had sex, but some eventually do, if you are having sex in your relationship you might want to ask yourself, "what will i enjoy on the night of my wedding?" my best humble advice is to quit. when you cut sex off in a courtship it helps you concentrate on the more important things and helps you quicken your pace to marriage.
Because the heart is treacherous, both of you would be wise to avoid being isolated in a house, an apartment, a parked automobile, or anywhere else that would give opportunity for wrong conduct.
Keeping your courtship morally clean gives clear evidence that you have self-control and that you put unselfish concern for the other person’s welfare ahead of your own desires.
Communication: is a very vital part of a relationship, the communication line should always remain opened. if your parner lives far off, both of you can still work things out, there should be a steady flow of communication, in these era of social networks and video calls, communication has become a lot easier and even cheaper and you can communicate with each other even face to face as if you were near.
Talk about issues that might present a challenge later in the future like, do you want to have children? how many do you want? where will you both live? will you both work secularly? also discuss about extended families, will your parents or sibblings live with you? how many? these questions and many more should be discussed so that it will not later present a problem in the family.
Preparing for the Wedding:
Some people spend more money on the wedding and arrangements more than they will even spend on the marriage. some spend to please friends and families leaving them financially drained and exhausted.
Make a budget, do not try to please anyone or do not follow slavish customs that can overshadow the meaning of the occasion and may rob you of the joy that you should have.
Remember that your wedding lasts just one day, but your marriage lasts a lifetime. Avoid concentrating too much on the act of getting married. plan ahead for a life of being married. Then you will have prepared well for a successful marriage.

 

How to Prepare for a Successful Marriage(part 2)Getting a Mate

 

What  to Look  for  in  a Mate:   (Read the part 1 here!)
Everyone has choices and what they will want their mate to possess. some though have made so many mistakes in setting unrealistic standards and these standards and unnecessary choices has made a lot of people who are of marriage age remain unmarried.
It is not wrong to set standards or have choices as explained above, but the point is making a reasonable and realistic choice is a great key to finding a suitable mate as well as happiness in a marriage. when you approach someone of the opposite sex whom you find attractive or that you want to settle down with, feel free to approach the person after you have done proper self scrutiny, you might start by asking yourself, Is marriage really my intention? you need to be sure before you proceed because it is very wrong to toil with someones emotion. there are some cases you approach someone of the opposite sex with sincere intention and the response you get is negative. in that case you do not have to force yourself on someone or become pushy or even beg someone to pity you and fall in love. if that should happen it can later lead to frustration, so do not persist to the point of being objectionable, remember that the other person has a right to make choices too and you might not be the persons choice.
Compatibility: you obviously need a mate that is compatible with you. you do not have to be in a relationship with someone with a different idea believes or that your character or personality is different from, understanding yourself might be very difficult. do not look for a mate that is wise, or that knows everything, marry someone who is teachable and quick to make adjustments when needed.
You do not have to look for a perfect mate, you can always love that imperfect person perfectly.
Physical appearance: it is not entirely bad or wrong if your mate is physically endowed or attractive, but placing emphasis on someones appearance when it comes to marriage can lead to a disastrous end. inner qualities and beauty should always come first and the paramount consideration before anything else for you to make a success of marriage.
The truth is: you can never find anyone who shares your entire beliefs, ideas, values and your thoughts.do not ask: "Do we agree on everything? it might be wise to rather ask: "What happens when we disagree?"
If you want to get married, be wary of anyone who is proud and opinionated, never willing to compromise, or who constantly demands and schemes to have his or her own way.
Find  Out  Before Hand
There are some basic questions that can help you analyze properly the person you want to marry, For example, a woman might ask, “What kind of reputation does this man have? Who are his friends? Does he display self-control? How does he treat elderly persons? What kind of family does he come from? How does he interact with them? What is his attitude toward money? Does he abuse alcoholic beverages? Is he temperamental, even violent? Could I deeply respect him?” A man might ask, “Does this woman display love and respect? Is she capable of caring for a home? What will her family expect of us? Is she wise, industrious, thrifty? What does she talk about? Is she genuinely concerned about the welfare of others, or is she self-centered, a busybody? Is she trustworthy? Is she willing to submit to headship, or is she stubborn, perhaps even rebellious?”
Although the above questions will surely help you to analyze things, but you should still give room for imperfections, do not expect a replica of a hero or a heroine from a romance movie or novel, every human on earth have shortcomings or limitations and some of these will have to be overlooked by the both partners.
What, though, if you notice things that trouble you deeply? Such doubts should be considered carefully. However romantic you may feel or however anxious you may be to get married, do not close your eyes to serious faults. If you have a relationship with someone about whom you have serious reservations, it is wise to discontinue the relationship and to refrain from making a lasting commitment to that person.

The Role of the Mother in the Family

THE ROLE OF THE MOTHER IN THE FAMILY ARRANGEMENT

    From the origin of the first human pair, the role of the wife can never be undermined.the man was lonely and alone, the woman was made for him as a helper and a companion.the holy books have in all respect given women responsibilities, roles that when accomplished will bring fulfillment in a family. life on earth can only be complete when the woman adds
or contribute to the procreation circle.The bible for instance recognizes the woman and accords her importance when it said that a man will leave his father and mother and must stick to his wife and they will become one flesh.



HOW IS THE IMPORTANCE OF WOMEN EMPHASIZED?

The importance of women is emphasized by the enormous duties they owe to their family and the society at large, a woman who fails to fulfill her role in the family will tamper the joy of the society in a number of ways. to buttress this point, The 26th President of the United States,Theodore Roosevelt stated:"It is the tasks connected with the home that are the fundamental tasks of humanity... if the mother does not do her duty, there will either be no next generation, or a next generation that is worse than none at all."

WHAT IS INVOLVED IN BEING A MOTHER?

Being a mother involves more than just becoming pregnant and giving birth to a child, it involves, preparedness, readiness, self-sacrifice, commitment and love. the woman must be prepared for the task of being a wife and a
mother because its demanding and time consuming, but its more fulfilling than any secular work or profession especially when its done right.

She must be ready and expectant when a baby is on the way. the task of raising a baby needs careful thought and readiness.She must be able to offer herself for her family, her children needs her love and attention at all times, and the father too needs care,love and attention, so she should be willing to attend to all these needs when they call.

Commitment is needed because the early stage of catering for a family might seem frustrating especially when things are not clear or going on smoothly in the family. In March 8, 2003, then UN Secretary-General, Kofi Annan said: "Study after study has shown that there is no effective development strategy in which women do not play a central role. When women are fully involved, the benefits can be seen immediately: families are healthier and better fed: their income, savings and reinvestment go up." this statement confirms that the society at large can never do without our women, so we appreciate you women and also praise your effort.

THE BASIC ROLES OF WOMEN:

the roles of Women(Mother) include but are not limited to the following:
1.She takes care of her children and her household.
2.she spends more time with the children, so she acts like the teacher, and disciplinarian
during the formative years and the early stages of life.
3.She is the home keeper, though some time women are allowed to work so that the family can
make ends meet, in that case the role of the woman adds up and the family can plan how
to lessen it.
4.She is meant to be a helper or a complement of the man in all areas and circumstances that is worthwhile.
5.She builds her home up in love and cares for her household even at the expense of her own
freedom or time.
6.She sets reasonable standards for her children in the absence of her husband.

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The Origin of the Family Arrangement

The Hebrew term mish·pa·chah' (family), in addition to referring to a household,also means, by extension, a tribe, people, or nation. The Greek word pa·tri·a also isbroad in its scope.
God originated the family arrangement from the start by giving the first human couple the ability to pro create when he brought them together and gave them the command to multiply which they will only fullfill through the family arrangement as man and wife.


In ancient Hebrew society the family was the basic unit. The family was a small government; the father as head was responsible to God, and the mother was the subordinate manager over the children in the household. today many people try to tamper the original order by advocating women independence and power. in the original family arrangement by God, women were never supposed to be totally independent, though they were never meant to be abused or treated like filth.
Each person in the family circle has their role to fullfill and also their place in the family system well arranged by the institutor himself. a lot of families today face so many challenges because they either dont know their role in the family arrangement or they have either neglected or even abused it.
Monogamy was the original standard God set for the family. Although polygamy was later practiced, polygamy was always against the original principle that God laid down.However, he tolerated it until his due time to restore his original standard.
Under the Law covenant he recognized the existence of polygamy and regulated it so that the family unit was still kept intact and operative.

Under the Law Covenant. In giving the Ten Commandments to Israel, God gave attention to the integrity of the family unit. “Honor your father and your mother” is the fifth commandment, the first commandment with a promise.

God who is the originator of the family arrangement has been kind enough to discuss in full details how to maintain love in a family circle, he has gone so far by spelling out what every member of the family unit must do for the smooth running of the family.

To maintain love and unity in your family, reading help articles is not just enough,you have to be ready to make changes where it is needed, you need to put into practice the suggestions so that it will guide you to find true love and happiness in your family circle.

In my blog, i shall discuss in details the role of each family member in the family arrangement and also to help families who have problems to rekindle their love by appreciating their role in the family circle and doing it.

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6 Signs You are in a Healthy Relationship!!!

Most couples tend to define their relationship as being good or bad. However, psychiatrists and marriage counselors believe that the actual term that should define a relationship is “healthy”. A relationship (be it a healthy or an unhealthy one), has to pass through testing times. If you too are going through some ups and downs, it is best to find out how healthy your relationship is. Here are a few things which will help you to discover the current state of your relationship.

1. Mutual respect
This is an ultimate test for any relationship. Respecting your partner is perhaps the biggest contribution you can make towards a stronger relationship. This does not mean that you start worshipping your partner. Here, respect could be something as simple as admiring them for the manner in which they handle a stressful job and fulfill their duties towards you and your kids.



2. Personal crisis is not an individual struggle
Everybody goes through difficult times due to factors such as health, workplace and family issues. However, in a healthy relationship, your problems are no longer just yours. This means, he or she is there to sense that you are struggling with something, and is also ready to help. Couple-hood loses its essence if the two of you are not there for each other during tough times.

3. No Room for abuse
This refers to an abusive behavior beyond the realm of just saying negative words to each other. Forcing you to relent even when you are not in the mood to get intimate is also a type of physical and mental abuse. Also, being repeatedly badmouthed by the in-laws despite your best attempts to appease them is parallel to being psychologically abused. If such things are part of your relationship, it is certainly not healthy.

4. Being happy for each other comes naturally
If you two can feel happy for each other for the smallest of accomplishments, it indicates a healthy relationship. For instance, if your wife is praised by her boss, it is a reason enough for you to feel happy for her. Similarly, the smallest layer of muscle your husband has added through his gyming makes you kiss him with adoration. These are strong indications that your bond does not need significant happenings to make you feel happy for the other person.

5. Minimal boredom
This is perhaps the most common relationship challenge till date. Most couples, who have a difficult time dealing with their couple-hood (including the newlyweds), keep talking about a certain kind of boredom that has set in their relationship. Though this is an inevitable part of any relationship, the boredom should not become overwhelming. So much so, that you no longer wait for the ‘exclusive moments’ with him or her. If it has been more than a couple of months when you last spent some quality time with your spouse, your relationship is for sure taking a gradual nosedive.

6. Honesty is not an issue
When being honest, and I mean, being brutally honest with each other is not an issue, you can be assured that you share a healthy relationship. This is easier said than done, since sharing what you actually feel, your opinions or emotional state in its absolute sincere form does not come easy.

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Reasons Why Men Cheat on Their Wifes and What the Woman Can Do

WHAT YOU CAN DO WHEN YOUR HUSBAND IS UNFAITHFULWomen independence and divorce has been advocated by so many so-called experts, the resultant
effect of it has been an increase in the rate of divorce, family breakup, misunderstanding,
and a menace to the society. and it can cause unfaithfulness or cheating from the man.



Women independence advocates that the woman has equal right with the man, and so therefore
shares equal power with her husband whom the originator of marriage asked them to subject
themselves to. though the woman should not be battered, abused, or controlled like a little
baby or a toy, she should also obey and respect her husband as the head of the family.
Women who truly wants to succeed in their given marital assignment, and live a happier
more fulfilled life of accomplishment, will never practice the theory of independence, which
might seem like a rebellious or insubordinate act. Running a family though challenging, is easy
and fulfilling. when the wife plays her role very well,she gets the credit and joy of it.

WHEN THE MAN IS UNFAITHFUL

In this case, it could be heartbreaking, and tempting. some relationships and marriages crash
when a mate is unfaithful. its always easier for the man to cheat on the woman than the woman.
we will try to look at the cause, and steps that can be taken to prevent or stop it as the case
may be.
Though its heartbreaking, but it should not tear the family apart, as the woman try to reason and
figure out what could have led to that unholy act. every man is a potential cheat by nature,due to
their polygamous nature what i mean in this sense is, men are easily given to sex, even to people
or girls that you would have thought that they would never have sex it. a man is created with huge
urge for sex and love and when they are offered one free, might find it difficult to resist, some do,
but its always difficult. only about 5 in 100 men can resist serious seduction.

These is not an excuse for the men to go on misbehaving because they could still have resisted the
urge or temptation, The possible reasons that can make a man give in to seduction easily might
include the following, though some men have a problem when it comes to sex:

When they are overly starved of sex from their wife:
some women when they make demands from their spouse and due to some reasons he is not able to provide
or meet their demands, they immediately deny him of sex till he is able to provide or meet their demands.
though this seems like a peaceful protest, but it can tear a strong family apart. men have a burning
and strong desire for the opposite sex, either for love or sex. men who have been starved and happen
to get a seemingly caring cheerful giver might find solace in her arms and comfort in her bosom.
starving your man is not the answer to the demands you make, but even a potential axe that can tear
your family into pieces. give him some time maybe he doesn't have the means to meet your
immediate demands but he will when you in spite of everything still show him love, care and
respect.

Another likely reason for unfaithfulness might be nagging:
Some women nag their husbands to an extent that they are afraid to come home. men love quiet times
and cool moment, when you nag and complain or even shout at them, you are indirectly asking them
to look for somewhere else that is cool and welcoming. sometimes they will only go to bars and beer
parlors, and one serious risk with those kind of places are girls without pride who will do anything
to gain what you loose, if you give them the chance, then they will win.

Another reason might be that you are losing your beauty:
Some women when they marry they throw all caution to the air, start eating anyhow and adding unnecessary
weight, some don't even put on those sexy things they use to wear that attracted their husbands at first.
For the fact that you are married does not mean you are always married, this is the time for you to show
him that you are ever young, still that beautiful sweet sixteen he fell in love with, he might not have any
reason to fool around outside his marriage if you possess all he is about going to look for.

Another painful reason is that some men like varieties:
Those kind of men, no matter how you look, do or even behave, they still will cheat on you. in such a case,
you should not abandon your home and run, instead you have to make him change without fighting.
When your man is cheating on you, he might not have the courage to look you in the eye, he
might even start avoiding you technically. when you find out he is cheating on you, don't do
anything stupid, don't confront him, don't let him know that you already know he is cheating.
don't act like you careless, still try as hard as you can to show him love and respect, try to
if you can, increase the love you show him, try to appeal to his conscience. if he knows you know
that he is cheating, he wont need to hide or act secretive, his conscience might die and he
will be worse than ever. try to find out his reason for sleeping outside his matrimonial home
and try to figure out how to help him stop this unholy act.

When you have a misunderstanding with your spouse, always take the initiative to sue for peace
apologize, men like being proud, they might not want to make the first move. men act like
babies, to win your man and save your marriage, you must see your man as one of your baby
in fact see him as your little baby that needs pampering, care, love, and attention. when you
do, you will for sure reap the benefit in that your husband will always love you and be proud
of you, and i tell you one truth, he will never cheat on you, you know why? because men have
conscience and will find it very difficult to hurt the one that gives off everything to please
them. try hard to ginger your husbands conscience and keep it awake so that he wont ever let
a stranger in.
The above suggestions if applied will surely enhance the love in your marriage, and ensure
you a happy family life.

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How to Maintain Commitment in Your Marriage

What Is Commitment?
Some people think that it springs from a sense of duty but it takes more than that. Commitment can be likened to the mortar that binds the bricks of a sturdy house. Mortar is made from a combination of ingredients such as sand, cement, and water. Similarly, commitment is formed from a combination of factors such as, trust and friendship. But that bond can equally be weakened, lets find out how.



The Challenges:

Commitment in itself requires a lot of hard work, and self Sacrifice, and readiness to forgo your own preferences so to please your mate. Although some might think that the idea of pleasing the other partner than oneself and giving without asking back is outdated and out of fashion, but if your family happiness is important to you, then the principle of self sacrifice will not be option to you. Marriage also demands a lot of hard work and patience, in some cases even marriage mates who are unselfish do not always acknowledge each other anxieties or value their mates sacrifices. it could be disastrous because when a couple fails to show appreciation for each other, their marriage is bound to cause them tribulation in their flesh than it would otherwise. so in other for your marriage to survive hard times and thrive smoothly, you need to develop a long term view of your relationship. But you might be committed to your relationship and your mate is not, so how can you equally make your mate to be committed to the relationship as well?

How To Strengthen Commitment

1). Make Your Marriage A Priority: we all have priorities, and we all equally have scale of preference, to maintain a healthy family life, your marriage should come second to nothing in your overall scale of preference (you can read the bible book of Philippians 1:10) the bible calls it more important thing. God also values the way husband and wife treat each other. And you gain favor from God when you treat each other with respect. Your mate should come first in anything you do in your life. Try and ask yourself, How much time do I set aside for my mate? Ask yourself again, what specific thing have I done to reassure my mate that we are still good friend.The amount of time you invest in your relationship really matters to your mate because it shows how much committed you are to the relationship.

Try and find out from your mate to know how the other partner feels you are taking the relationship, to do this in a practical way, take a piece of paper and write down the following, Money, Work, Entertainment, Marriage, and Friends. Then mark what you believe to be your spouses priorities and ask your mate to do the same, then exchange the list, by so doing you will find out what your mate feels is taking more of your attention, then discuss with your mate to find out if there is a way to make amend that is if something else seems to be taking priorities other than your mate. Also try to find out what catches more of your mate interest in other to make him or her happier.

2) Avoid All Forms Of Infidelity: Try and avoid anything that might lead to unfaithfulness. if we remember the words of Jesus in the Bible book of (matthew5:28)when you keep looking at a woman to have passion for her you have already committed adultery with her in your heart, and that applies to women too. Adultery is a seed, when it is sown in the heart and is regular watered then it becomes fertile, then the heart will be led astray. Pornography is one tool that can lead the heart astray, some think that it is an adult movie, but truthfully, it is a film for young children and youth who are scared of tomorrow. So for you to avoid infidelity in your marriage, you must make a solemn vow never to watch pornography with or without your mate.

Dangers of pornography: It presents women as mere sex toys, and the performances there might be difficult for your mate to carry out, and you may start feeling you married the wrong person because the Bible says that expectation postponed is making the heart sick. So pornography presents a feeling of self worthlessness to the one watching it. So try and make a covenant with your eyes never to view anything displeasing to your mate present or not.

Try and guard your heart from forming an inappropriate attachment to a member of the opposite sex. you might consider it to be a harmless friendship, but remember that you can not tell the other person mind and motive, and secondly, the heart is very deceptive and can lead one astray before one can get hold of his senses.

Ask your self the following questions: To whom am I most attracted to, my spouse or to someone else? With who do I share good news first-my spouse or someone else? if my mate ask me to limit my contact with an associate of the opposite sex, how would I react? would I be resentful or would I happily make the requested change? These and many more are what you ask yourself to evaluate your relationship with anyone other than your mate.

If you find yourself attracted to a member of the opposite sex or anyone other than your mate, then you should limit your contact with that one to only what is necessary and keep all encounters on purely professional level. Try not to focus on ways you think this person is superior to your mate. Instead focus on your mates positive qualities. Then try also to reflect on the basic reasons why you fell in love with your mate then ask yourself if those beautiful attributes has been lost or is it just you who has failed to see them anymore.

Take the initiative to make whatever needed adjustment your relationship would need to survive any great storm in your marriage.

Whether your marriage is stable or strained, your mate need to know that you are committed to making the marriage a success. Try as hard as you to convince your mate that you want your marriage to succeed no matter what comes it way.

Divorce should not be an option when there is a difficulty in your marriage make sure you try to resolve all minor problems before they blow up and become bigger problems that can lead to dissolving of a happy union, remember also that God is the originator of marriage, so when there is a heavy storm in the boat of a marriage then practical advice should be sort from the bible.

Read this book and apply all its advice and you find yourself more committed to your mate, and you derive the best from your mate and that will lead to a more fulfilling and happy marriage. In a marriage, misunderstanding that can sometimes lead to a quarrel is not always unusual especially when the couples just got married. these two individuals(husband and wife) are people from different family background, race, religion, ethnic, and so many differences that might exist between them before they married. in each of the households issues are handled differently matters are treated in different ways, standards and values are different, with different upbringing and training.

With the above enumerations you can be able to deduce that a misunderstanding or even quarrel must exist between them till they understand each other perfectly, accept their new roles as members of a new family and create a new set of standards and values.

When couples get married, there is always struggle and battle for supremacy, who should set acceptable standards and values, who should lead, and who should be lead? those are always subject for their battles for supremacy.
cultures vary from place to place about the acceptable answer as to who should lead, but our concentration here is not who should lead, but how to resolve a resultant dispute that might arise in a family.

There are practical advice to follow, like the bible says, women should be in subjection to their own husbands. from that statement its obvious that the man should take the lead.

When you get married, there are certain characters your spouse will exhibit that you would never believe he is capable of. this happens because a relationship is like looking at a white paper with little stain on it from a distance, you can hardly see the stain, so when in courtship, those traits that are like a stain on a white paper will never show until after marriage, when you bring the white paper closer you will be able to see the stain, likewise after marriage when you start living together you will then see those bad behaviors you never knew existed.

When there is a misunderstanding, try to settle it before it will generate to a quarrel, if your partner exhibits fits of anger and start raing abusive speech on you, it takes only your inner strength to be able to avoid picking a quarrel and returning the insult.

What you need do is, no matter what he says, before answering, smile, make sure you smile deeply and also from the heart, then take a deep breath in, and then exhale gently, then with your smile still on you, try to sue for peace.

When you do that and you get the process your partner will notice that you are not in the mood for a fight and will surely be embarrassed and also sue for peace, even apologizing and asking for forgiveness.

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