What to Look for in a Mate When Preparing for Marriage

Everyone has choices and what they will want their mate to possess. some though have made so many mistakes in setting unrealistic standards and these standards and unnecessary choices has made a lot of people who are of marriage age remain unmarried.
It is not wrong to set standards or have choices as explained above, but the point is making a reasonable and realistic choice is a great key to finding a suitable mate as well as happiness in a marriage. when you approach someone of the opposite sex whom you find attractive or that you want to settle down with, feel free to approach the person after you have done proper self scrutiny, you might start by asking yourself, Is marriage really my intention? you need to be sure before you proceed because it is very wrong to toil with someones emotion. there are some cases you approach someone of the opposite sex with sincere intention and the response you get is negative. in that case you do not have to force yourself on someone or become pushy or even beg someone to pity you and fall in love. if that should happen it can later lead to frustration, so do not persist to the point of being objectionable, remember that the other person has a right to make choices too and you might not be the persons choice.
Compatibility: you obviously need a mate that is compatible with you. you do not

How to Prepare for a Successful Marriage (part 1)

Preparing for marriage requires careful preparation just like building a house. Before the foundation is laid, land must be acquired and the plans drawn up, so typically like building a house, it is very wise to sit down first and count the cost of it both financially and in terms of commitment to determine the readiness so that you wont make a mistake that will lead to regrets. in this article we will see how to prepare for a successful marriage that will bring lasting joy and happiness.
To have a success of marriage,  you first need to have a realistic view of it both the blessings and the cost of being married. there are vital questions you need answers to that will surely guide you to a successful marriage.
1.) How can you tell if you are ready for marriage?
2.)What should you look for in a mate?
3.)How can you make a success of courtship?
ARE YOU READY FOR MARRIAGE?
The first step here is to tell your self the truth. marriage is sweet but

How to Prepare for a Successful Marriage (part 3)Making courtship work

How Can You Make a Success of Courtship?Read (part 1)&(part 2)
To make a success of courtship, you must make sure that your moral conduct is above reproach. sex is for two people who are married and should be kept in its proper place. relationships based on sex and money in most cases do not eventually work out. you must never cheapen or displease yourself because you want to get married, always maintain your intergrity. sex is best enjoyed on your wedding night when it has been waited for and endured over time.Be careful that displays of affection do not escalate into unclean conduct or even fornication.
Still there are some relationships that might have started off a bit wrongly, its not that every relationship must fail or not lead to marriage because the parties involved had sex, but some eventually do, if you are having sex in your relationship you might want to ask yourself, "what will i enjoy on the night of my wedding?" my best humble advice is to quit. when you cut sex off in a courtship it helps you concentrate on the more important things and helps you quicken your pace to marriage.
Because the heart is treacherous, both of you would be wise to avoid being isolated in a house, an apartment, a parked automobile, or anywhere else that would give opportunity for wrong conduct.
Keeping your courtship morally clean gives clear evidence that you have self-control and that you put unselfish concern for the other person’s welfare ahead of your own desires.
Communication: is a very vital part of a relationship, the communication line should always remain opened. if your parner lives far off, both of you can still work things out, there should be a steady flow of communication, in these era of social networks and video calls, communication has become a lot easier and even cheaper and you can communicate with each other even face to face as if you were near.
Talk about issues that might present a challenge later in the future like, do you want to have children? how many do you want? where will you both live? will you both work secularly? also discuss about extended families, will your parents or sibblings live with you? how many? these questions and many more should be discussed so that it will not later present a problem in the family.
Preparing for the Wedding:
Some people spend more money on the wedding and arrangements more than they will even spend on the marriage. some spend to please friends and families leaving them financially drained and exhausted.
Make a budget, do not try to please anyone or do not follow slavish customs that can overshadow the meaning of the occasion and may rob you of the joy that you should have.
Remember that your wedding lasts just one day, but your marriage lasts a lifetime. Avoid concentrating too much on the act of getting married. plan ahead for a life of being married. Then you will have prepared well for a successful marriage.