TRAINING CHILDREN FROM INFANCY TO ADOLESCENCE

Training a child can be a daunting task especially when the parents fail to start on time. the best time to start training a child for sure is when they are young and can be easily controlled and directed.

AS CHILDREN grow, they explore the boundaries of their expanding world. They interact with more people—playmates, schoolmates, and extended family. when children interact with different people, the parents definitely are not the only people that influence them anymore. That is why it is essential that you use these years to teach your child the value of obedience and good manners. It is also important to provide direction with regard to right and wrong.



To train a child requires a lot, like, you have to reprove, reprimand, exhort, with all long-suffering and art of teaching.

Children ought to be tought at every given opportunity, seize every opportunity to inculcate something in your children. for you to be able to teach your children effectively, you have to develop the art of listening. listen when they talk, either to you or to friends and neighbors. children hardly keep secrets, so when you listen carefully when your children talk you can easily understand how they feel about things and also what they are going
through.

Make your children your friends. its normal for your friend to tell you what is bothering him or her, if you make your children your friend, they will more easily tell you things that bother them and also ask you anything they do not understand.

Do not hold back discipline. when your children flaunt your law, knowingly or unknowingly do not hold back discipline. if there are certain standards you set in your family and you also set out punishment for the offender and you child side steps, make sure the proportionate discipline is melt out. this will help the child to see reasons why he/she should never disobey your laws, and it will also help them to see why they should always fulfill their promises when they make one.

In disciplining your children, do not let them see you as a wicked father, that will make them see you as another enemy or threat they have, so you must show reasonableness when disciplining your children.

Sean Kingston Settles Gang Rape Lawsuit

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Sean Kingston has finally settled Carissa Capeloto over the gang raping allegation.(In case you missed the earlier story click here to read it).

Sources tell us, Kingston settled NOT because he's admitting guilt, but because his upcoming tour and new album release will prevent him from focusing his energies on a messy civil trial.

Sources from TMZ said Sean Kingston paid only a fraction of what Carissa Capeloto demanded so that the case will disappear from court.

Although Sean admitted having sex with the girl, he still believed he stood a better chance than the girl claiming the sex was consensual, see excerpts below, "Her story wasn't consistent. She told various stories throughout her interviews with police. Her friend's story wasn't consistent with hers. The medical report had no indications of force."

The lawsuit is expected to be dismissed soonest!

Justin Bieber Attacked at Toronto Nightclub

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Justin Bieber was attacked in a Canadian nightclub by an over eager partier who tried in vain to tackle him.

The scene occured at 3 am today at a Toronto nightclub. according to TMZ news sources JB left his safe VIP section to mingle with the regular folk -- and that's when a male clubgoer charged at him, got hold of his shirt (which he was wearing) and attempted to take him down, but failed.

security rushed in and managed to pull the guy off Bieber -- successfully taking him to the ground. In the midst of the chaos Justin was still trying to defend himself, kicking furiously.

Fresh Boko Haram Attack Kills About 54 People & 36 Missing

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News from our news source says that At least 54 people including 24 vigilante youths (Civilian JTF), 14 Shuwa Arab herdsmen and 16 civilians were killed by suspected Boko Haram terrorists in three different Local Government Areas of Monguno, Damboa and Nganzai in Borno state.

Live right, prevent heart defects in babies

Open the pages of newspapers these days, and you are likely to find beleaguered parents — mostly mothers — soliciting financial help for their babies who were born with holes in the heart. Physicians say holes in the heart — aka congenital heart defects — is a problem with the heart’s structure that is present at birth. They note that these defects change the normal flow of blood through the heart. A study led by Prof. Bernard Keavney of the University of Manchester, and published in Nature Genetics, submits that CHDs occur in seven out of 1,000 babies born, and that it is one of the major causes of childhood death and illness.

“CHDs change the normal flow of blood through the heart,” experts say. Scientists say the heart has two sides, separated by an inner wall called the septum. They explain as follows: “With each heartbeat, the right side of the heart receives oxygen-poor blood from the body and pumps it to the lungs. The left side of the heart receives oxygen-rich blood from the lungs and pumps it to the body. The septum prevents mixing of blood between the two sides of the heart. However, some babies are born with holes in the upper or lower septum.” Child and Public Health Physician with St. Ives Specialist Hospital, Dr. Rotimi Adesanya, notes that a hole in the septum between the heart’s two upper chambers is called an atrial septal defect, while a hole in the septum between the heart’s two lower chambers is called a ventricular septal defect. He says both ASD and VSD allow blood to pass from the left side of the heart to the right side, making oxygen-rich blood to mix with oxygen-poor blood. “As a result, some oxygen-rich blood is pumped to the lungs instead of the body,” Adesanya says. General practitioner, Dr. Emmanuel Ogbebor, notes that children who have simple congenital heart defects can survive to adulthood, and that they can live normal, active lives because their heart defects will close on their own and even if this doesn’t happen, the defect can be repaired. Causes But then, what causes heart defects in unborn babies? Experts say, broadly, there are two ways a child in the womb can develop heart issues — the first is unavoidable, while the second is avoidable.

Adesanya says heredity is the first unavoidable cause of congenital heart defects. He explains: “A parent who has a congenital heart defect is slightly more likely than other people to have a child who has the problem.” However, Ogbebor says it’s very rare for more than one child in a family to be born with a heart defect, even where heredity is concerned. Other unavoidable causes of heart defect are chromosomal abnormalities, Adesanya warns. “More than one-third of children with genetic disorders, such as Down syndrome, often have hole in the heart,” the paediatrician says. Scientists at the Lucile Packard Children’s Hospital at Stanford University, California, USA, disclose that other chromosomal abnormalities that could contribute to having heart defects include Turner’s syndrome (a genetic disorder that affects a girl’s development, making her infertile); Cri du chat syndrome (a disorder that causes many symptoms, most of which affect facial features and motor skills); Wolf-Hirshhorn syndrome (a developmental disorder that affects many parts of the body, with characteristic facial appearance, delayed growth and development, intellectual disability, and seizures); and DiGeorge syndrome (a genetic disorder with varying effects on facial appearance, lack of/or underdeveloped thymus and parathyroid glands). Ogbebor adds that though scientists continue to search for the causes of congenital heart defects, certain unhealthy but avoidable habits could predispose an unborn child to the disorder. For instance, the physician says, smoking during pregnancy has been linked to several CHDs, including septal defects. Drinking alcohol during pregnancy can also lead to having babies with foetal alcohol syndrome, a situation that often makes babies have CHDs, Adesanya says. Professor of Anatomy, Oladapo Ashiru, also warns that women who are exposed to organic solvents are three times more likely to give birth to a baby with congenital heart disease than the general population. Experts say organic solvents are chemicals found in a wide range of products and substances such as paint, ink, nail polish, glue, household cleaners, etc. The physicians also warn that taking certain medications while pregnant, especially in the first 13 weeks when the baby’s heart is still developing, can cause birth defects, including hole in the heart. “Such drugs include benzodiazepines and lithium for seizure (epilepsy) control; isotretinoin and topical retinoids for treating acne; as well as analgesics (painkillers). “That is why pregnant women are advised to consult their physicians before taking any medications whatsoever,” Ogbebor warns. The Stanford scientists also say that mothers who have phenylketonuria but who do not adhere to the special diet necessary to manage the disease during pregnancy have a higher risk of having a child with CHD. Phenylketonuria is a genetic disorder in which the body can’t process part of a protein called phenylalanine, which is present in almost all foods. Diabetologist/Medical Director of Rainbow Specialist Medical Centre, Lekki, Dr. Afokoghene Isiavwe, also adds that women with insulin-dependent diabetes (particularly if the diabetes is not well-controlled) may have a higher risk of having a child with heart defects. All the physicians urge women with these chronic illnesses to undergo medical counselling before becoming pregnant. From Our Source.

Sean Kingston Sued For Alleged Gang Rape

Sean Kingston is currently facing a lawsuit for allegedly gang raping a girl in company with his bodyguard, and a member of his band, the incidence took place July, 2010.
Carissa Capeloto (22yrs now) claims she was forced to have sex with Sean Kingston, his bodyguard and a member of his band after she had smoked pot and downed 7-10 shots of vodka.
Capeloto -- who has sued all 3 men -- alleges she'd been invited to Kingston's hotel room for a meet-and-greet following a Bieber concert -- where Kingston had also performed -- but when she showed up ... Kingston was waiting naked on his bed.
Capeloto claims the bodyguard picked her up and placed her on top of Kingston, and all three of the men proceeded to gang rape her while she was "obviously intoxicated, incapable of consent."
Capeloto says her friend later entered the room and rescued her. The police were called and Capeloto was taken to the hospital where she says she was treated for physical injuries consistent with rape.
She says her life has been ruined ... she can barely sleep, has mood swings and panic attacks.  Capeloto wants $5 mil minimum.
BTW ... criminal charges against Kingston were dropped in 2010 after cops concluded Capeloto wasn't credible enough for a legit case.
Kingston has filed legal docs insisting the sex was 100% consensual.
Trial is set for November.
God help him scale through the trial, these celebs just cant do without RAPE CASE!, either true or claimed.
More stories from our source TMZ

Read more of our articles here, how to maintain commitment!

Reasons Why Men Cheat on Their Wifes and What the Woman Can Do

WHAT YOU CAN DO WHEN YOUR HUSBAND IS UNFAITHFULWomen independence and divorce has been advocated by so many so-called experts, the resultant
effect of it has been an increase in the rate of divorce, family breakup, misunderstanding,
and a menace to the society. and it can cause unfaithfulness or cheating from the man.



Women independence advocates that the woman has equal right with the man, and so therefore
shares equal power with her husband whom the originator of marriage asked them to subject
themselves to. though the woman should not be battered, abused, or controlled like a little
baby or a toy, she should also obey and respect her husband as the head of the family.
Women who truly wants to succeed in their given marital assignment, and live a happier
more fulfilled life of accomplishment, will never practice the theory of independence, which
might seem like a rebellious or insubordinate act. Running a family though challenging, is easy
and fulfilling. when the wife plays her role very well,she gets the credit and joy of it.

WHEN THE MAN IS UNFAITHFUL

In this case, it could be heartbreaking, and tempting. some relationships and marriages crash
when a mate is unfaithful. its always easier for the man to cheat on the woman than the woman.
we will try to look at the cause, and steps that can be taken to prevent or stop it as the case
may be.
Though its heartbreaking, but it should not tear the family apart, as the woman try to reason and
figure out what could have led to that unholy act. every man is a potential cheat by nature,due to
their polygamous nature what i mean in this sense is, men are easily given to sex, even to people
or girls that you would have thought that they would never have sex it. a man is created with huge
urge for sex and love and when they are offered one free, might find it difficult to resist, some do,
but its always difficult. only about 5 in 100 men can resist serious seduction.

These is not an excuse for the men to go on misbehaving because they could still have resisted the
urge or temptation, The possible reasons that can make a man give in to seduction easily might
include the following, though some men have a problem when it comes to sex:

When they are overly starved of sex from their wife:
some women when they make demands from their spouse and due to some reasons he is not able to provide
or meet their demands, they immediately deny him of sex till he is able to provide or meet their demands.
though this seems like a peaceful protest, but it can tear a strong family apart. men have a burning
and strong desire for the opposite sex, either for love or sex. men who have been starved and happen
to get a seemingly caring cheerful giver might find solace in her arms and comfort in her bosom.
starving your man is not the answer to the demands you make, but even a potential axe that can tear
your family into pieces. give him some time maybe he doesn't have the means to meet your
immediate demands but he will when you in spite of everything still show him love, care and
respect.

Another likely reason for unfaithfulness might be nagging:
Some women nag their husbands to an extent that they are afraid to come home. men love quiet times
and cool moment, when you nag and complain or even shout at them, you are indirectly asking them
to look for somewhere else that is cool and welcoming. sometimes they will only go to bars and beer
parlors, and one serious risk with those kind of places are girls without pride who will do anything
to gain what you loose, if you give them the chance, then they will win.

Another reason might be that you are losing your beauty:
Some women when they marry they throw all caution to the air, start eating anyhow and adding unnecessary
weight, some don't even put on those sexy things they use to wear that attracted their husbands at first.
For the fact that you are married does not mean you are always married, this is the time for you to show
him that you are ever young, still that beautiful sweet sixteen he fell in love with, he might not have any
reason to fool around outside his marriage if you possess all he is about going to look for.

Another painful reason is that some men like varieties:
Those kind of men, no matter how you look, do or even behave, they still will cheat on you. in such a case,
you should not abandon your home and run, instead you have to make him change without fighting.
When your man is cheating on you, he might not have the courage to look you in the eye, he
might even start avoiding you technically. when you find out he is cheating on you, don't do
anything stupid, don't confront him, don't let him know that you already know he is cheating.
don't act like you careless, still try as hard as you can to show him love and respect, try to
if you can, increase the love you show him, try to appeal to his conscience. if he knows you know
that he is cheating, he wont need to hide or act secretive, his conscience might die and he
will be worse than ever. try to find out his reason for sleeping outside his matrimonial home
and try to figure out how to help him stop this unholy act.

When you have a misunderstanding with your spouse, always take the initiative to sue for peace
apologize, men like being proud, they might not want to make the first move. men act like
babies, to win your man and save your marriage, you must see your man as one of your baby
in fact see him as your little baby that needs pampering, care, love, and attention. when you
do, you will for sure reap the benefit in that your husband will always love you and be proud
of you, and i tell you one truth, he will never cheat on you, you know why? because men have
conscience and will find it very difficult to hurt the one that gives off everything to please
them. try hard to ginger your husbands conscience and keep it awake so that he wont ever let
a stranger in.
The above suggestions if applied will surely enhance the love in your marriage, and ensure
you a happy family life.

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How to Maintain Commitment in Your Marriage

What Is Commitment?
Some people think that it springs from a sense of duty but it takes more than that. Commitment can be likened to the mortar that binds the bricks of a sturdy house. Mortar is made from a combination of ingredients such as sand, cement, and water. Similarly, commitment is formed from a combination of factors such as, trust and friendship. But that bond can equally be weakened, lets find out how.



The Challenges:

Commitment in itself requires a lot of hard work, and self Sacrifice, and readiness to forgo your own preferences so to please your mate. Although some might think that the idea of pleasing the other partner than oneself and giving without asking back is outdated and out of fashion, but if your family happiness is important to you, then the principle of self sacrifice will not be option to you. Marriage also demands a lot of hard work and patience, in some cases even marriage mates who are unselfish do not always acknowledge each other anxieties or value their mates sacrifices. it could be disastrous because when a couple fails to show appreciation for each other, their marriage is bound to cause them tribulation in their flesh than it would otherwise. so in other for your marriage to survive hard times and thrive smoothly, you need to develop a long term view of your relationship. But you might be committed to your relationship and your mate is not, so how can you equally make your mate to be committed to the relationship as well?

How To Strengthen Commitment

1). Make Your Marriage A Priority: we all have priorities, and we all equally have scale of preference, to maintain a healthy family life, your marriage should come second to nothing in your overall scale of preference (you can read the bible book of Philippians 1:10) the bible calls it more important thing. God also values the way husband and wife treat each other. And you gain favor from God when you treat each other with respect. Your mate should come first in anything you do in your life. Try and ask yourself, How much time do I set aside for my mate? Ask yourself again, what specific thing have I done to reassure my mate that we are still good friend.The amount of time you invest in your relationship really matters to your mate because it shows how much committed you are to the relationship.

Try and find out from your mate to know how the other partner feels you are taking the relationship, to do this in a practical way, take a piece of paper and write down the following, Money, Work, Entertainment, Marriage, and Friends. Then mark what you believe to be your spouses priorities and ask your mate to do the same, then exchange the list, by so doing you will find out what your mate feels is taking more of your attention, then discuss with your mate to find out if there is a way to make amend that is if something else seems to be taking priorities other than your mate. Also try to find out what catches more of your mate interest in other to make him or her happier.

2) Avoid All Forms Of Infidelity: Try and avoid anything that might lead to unfaithfulness. if we remember the words of Jesus in the Bible book of (matthew5:28)when you keep looking at a woman to have passion for her you have already committed adultery with her in your heart, and that applies to women too. Adultery is a seed, when it is sown in the heart and is regular watered then it becomes fertile, then the heart will be led astray. Pornography is one tool that can lead the heart astray, some think that it is an adult movie, but truthfully, it is a film for young children and youth who are scared of tomorrow. So for you to avoid infidelity in your marriage, you must make a solemn vow never to watch pornography with or without your mate.

Dangers of pornography: It presents women as mere sex toys, and the performances there might be difficult for your mate to carry out, and you may start feeling you married the wrong person because the Bible says that expectation postponed is making the heart sick. So pornography presents a feeling of self worthlessness to the one watching it. So try and make a covenant with your eyes never to view anything displeasing to your mate present or not.

Try and guard your heart from forming an inappropriate attachment to a member of the opposite sex. you might consider it to be a harmless friendship, but remember that you can not tell the other person mind and motive, and secondly, the heart is very deceptive and can lead one astray before one can get hold of his senses.

Ask your self the following questions: To whom am I most attracted to, my spouse or to someone else? With who do I share good news first-my spouse or someone else? if my mate ask me to limit my contact with an associate of the opposite sex, how would I react? would I be resentful or would I happily make the requested change? These and many more are what you ask yourself to evaluate your relationship with anyone other than your mate.

If you find yourself attracted to a member of the opposite sex or anyone other than your mate, then you should limit your contact with that one to only what is necessary and keep all encounters on purely professional level. Try not to focus on ways you think this person is superior to your mate. Instead focus on your mates positive qualities. Then try also to reflect on the basic reasons why you fell in love with your mate then ask yourself if those beautiful attributes has been lost or is it just you who has failed to see them anymore.

Take the initiative to make whatever needed adjustment your relationship would need to survive any great storm in your marriage.

Whether your marriage is stable or strained, your mate need to know that you are committed to making the marriage a success. Try as hard as you to convince your mate that you want your marriage to succeed no matter what comes it way.

Divorce should not be an option when there is a difficulty in your marriage make sure you try to resolve all minor problems before they blow up and become bigger problems that can lead to dissolving of a happy union, remember also that God is the originator of marriage, so when there is a heavy storm in the boat of a marriage then practical advice should be sort from the bible.

Read this book and apply all its advice and you find yourself more committed to your mate, and you derive the best from your mate and that will lead to a more fulfilling and happy marriage. In a marriage, misunderstanding that can sometimes lead to a quarrel is not always unusual especially when the couples just got married. these two individuals(husband and wife) are people from different family background, race, religion, ethnic, and so many differences that might exist between them before they married. in each of the households issues are handled differently matters are treated in different ways, standards and values are different, with different upbringing and training.

With the above enumerations you can be able to deduce that a misunderstanding or even quarrel must exist between them till they understand each other perfectly, accept their new roles as members of a new family and create a new set of standards and values.

When couples get married, there is always struggle and battle for supremacy, who should set acceptable standards and values, who should lead, and who should be lead? those are always subject for their battles for supremacy.
cultures vary from place to place about the acceptable answer as to who should lead, but our concentration here is not who should lead, but how to resolve a resultant dispute that might arise in a family.

There are practical advice to follow, like the bible says, women should be in subjection to their own husbands. from that statement its obvious that the man should take the lead.

When you get married, there are certain characters your spouse will exhibit that you would never believe he is capable of. this happens because a relationship is like looking at a white paper with little stain on it from a distance, you can hardly see the stain, so when in courtship, those traits that are like a stain on a white paper will never show until after marriage, when you bring the white paper closer you will be able to see the stain, likewise after marriage when you start living together you will then see those bad behaviors you never knew existed.

When there is a misunderstanding, try to settle it before it will generate to a quarrel, if your partner exhibits fits of anger and start raing abusive speech on you, it takes only your inner strength to be able to avoid picking a quarrel and returning the insult.

What you need do is, no matter what he says, before answering, smile, make sure you smile deeply and also from the heart, then take a deep breath in, and then exhale gently, then with your smile still on you, try to sue for peace.

When you do that and you get the process your partner will notice that you are not in the mood for a fight and will surely be embarrassed and also sue for peace, even apologizing and asking for forgiveness.

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