WHAT YOU CAN DO WHEN YOUR HUSBAND IS UNFAITHFUL
Women independence and divorce has been advocated by so many so-called experts, the resultant
effect of it has been an increase in the rate of divorce, family breakup, misunderstanding,
and a menace to the society. and it can cause unfaithfulness or cheating from the man.
Women independence advocates that the woman has equal right with the man, and so therefore
shares equal power with her husband whom the originator of marriage asked them to subject
themselves to. though the woman should not be battered, abused, or controlled like a little
baby or a toy, she should also obey and respect her husband as the head of the family.
Women who truly wants to succeed in their given marital assignment, and live a happier
more fulfilled life of accomplishment, will never practice the theory of independence, which
might seem like a rebellious or insubordinate act. Running a family though challenging, is easy
and fulfilling. when the wife plays her role very well,she gets the credit and joy of it.
WHEN THE MAN IS UNFAITHFUL
In this case, it could be heartbreaking, and tempting. some relationships and marriages crash
when a mate is unfaithful. its always easier for the man to cheat on the woman than the woman.
we will try to look at the cause, and steps that can be taken to prevent or stop it as the case
may be.
Though its heartbreaking, but it should not tear the family apart, as the woman try to reason and
figure out what could have led to that unholy act. every man is a potential cheat by nature,due to
their polygamous nature what i mean in this sense is, men are easily given to sex, even to people
or girls that you would have thought that they would never have sex it. a man is created with huge
urge for sex and love and when they are offered one free, might find it difficult to resist, some do,
but its always difficult. only about 5 in 100 men can resist serious seduction.
These is not an excuse for the men to go on misbehaving because they could still have resisted the
urge or temptation, The possible reasons that can make a man give in to seduction easily might
include the following, though some men have a problem when it comes to sex:
When they are overly starved of sex from their wife:
some women when they make demands from their spouse and due to some reasons he is not able to provide
or meet their demands, they immediately deny him of sex till he is able to provide or meet their demands.
though this seems like a peaceful protest, but it can tear a strong family apart. men have a burning
and strong desire for the opposite sex, either for love or sex. men who have been starved and happen
to get a seemingly caring cheerful giver might find solace in her arms and comfort in her bosom.
starving your man is not the answer to the demands you make, but even a potential axe that can tear
your family into pieces. give him some time maybe he doesn’t have the means to meet your
immediate demands but he will when you in spite of everything still show him love, care and
respect.
Another likely reason for unfaithfulness might be nagging:
Some women nag their husbands to an extent that they are afraid to come home. men love quiet times
and cool moment, when you nag and complain or even shout at them, you are indirectly asking them
to look for somewhere else that is cool and welcoming. sometimes they will only go to bars and beer
parlors, and one serious risk with those kind of places are girls without pride who will do anything
to gain what you loose, if you give them the chance, then they will win.
Another reason might be that you are losing your beauty:
Some women when they marry they throw all caution to the air, start eating anyhow and adding unnecessary
weight, some don’t even put on those sexy things they use to wear that attracted their husbands at first.
For the fact that you are married does not mean you are always married, this is the time for you to show
him that you are ever young, still that beautiful sweet sixteen he fell in love with, he might not have any
reason to fool around outside his marriage if you possess all he is about going to look for.
Another painful reason is that some men like varieties:
Those kind of men, no matter how you look, do or even behave, they still will cheat on you. in such a case,
you should not abandon your home and run, instead you have to make him change without fighting.
When your man is cheating on you, he might not have the courage to look you in the eye, he
might even start avoiding you technically. when you find out he is cheating on you, don’t do
anything stupid, don’t confront him, don’t let him know that you already know he is cheating.
don’t act like you careless, still try as hard as you can to show him love and respect, try to
if you can, increase the love you show him, try to appeal to his conscience. if he knows you know
that he is cheating, he wont need to hide or act secretive, his conscience might die and he
will be worse than ever. try to find out his reason for sleeping outside his matrimonial home
and try to figure out how to help him stop this unholy act.
When you have a misunderstanding with your spouse, always take the initiative to sue for peace
apologize, men like being proud, they might not want to make the first move. men act like
babies, to win your man and save your marriage, you must see your man as one of your baby
in fact see him as your little baby that needs pampering, care, love, and attention. when you
do, you will for sure reap the benefit in that your husband will always love you and be proud
of you, and i tell you one truth, he will never cheat on you, you know why? because men have
conscience and will find it very difficult to hurt the one that gives off everything to please
them. try hard to ginger your husbands conscience and keep it awake so that he wont ever let
a stranger in.
The above suggestions if applied will surely enhance the love in your marriage, and ensure
you a happy family life.
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