How to Prepare for a Successful Marriage (part 1)

Preparing for marriage requires careful preparation just like building a house. Before the foundation is laid, land must be acquired and the plans drawn up, so typically like building a house, it is very wise to sit down first and count the cost of it both financially and in terms of commitment to determine the readiness so that you wont make a mistake that will lead to regrets. in this article we will see how to prepare for a successful marriage that will bring lasting joy and happiness.

To have a success of marriage,  you first need to have a realistic view of it both the blessings and the cost of being married. there are vital questions you need answers to that will surely guide you to a successful marriage.

1.) How can you tell if you are ready for marriage?
2.)What should you look for in a mate?
3.)How can you make a success of courtship?

ARE YOU READY FOR MARRIAGE?
The first step here is to tell your self the truth. marriage is sweet but very challenging, are you ready for the commitment needed to keep a marriage? there are some of your personal likes or traits that you might have to let go, remember that you will leave your father and mother and even siblings to start a family with someone from a different background and upbringing.
Commitment is needed for you to stick with one person in a marriage, unlike when you were dating, you will not have the liberty anymore to date or try another relationship even if you are not enjoying your present relationship.
Sexual relations outside your home destroys the family and must be avoided, so you need to ask yourself if you are willing to keep yourself for your mate alone, do you love your mate enough not to desire someone else but him or her?
Do not rush into marriage or marry because your friends or everyone around you is getting married, or simply because you see someone enjoying his or marriage so you start fantasizing about it and want to experience it, you need to have a clear and realistic view of marriage before you delve into it.
The truth: although there are some who actually enjoy their marriage, but there might not really be any home without its own problems or challenges, but some are wise enough to let love lead and settle inside before coming out, so you might not see the problems because they have settled it, but you might not have known how enormous the challenge was.
Maturity contributes to a successful marriage too. getting married when the sexual desire is hot can be detrimental or even lead to regrets in marriage. peoples likes and preferences change with time, people who get married too early might feel they made a mistake later when their likes or preferences likely change. so many marriages that fail today are as a result of early marriage and changed or failed expectations.

KNOW YOURSELF FIRST
Marriage will not change your personality. you need to know yourself first, what qualities do you have? what traits do you possess that can lead to a success in marriage? what kind of husband or wife will you make? are you always complaining, or easy to push blames to another person, or are you quick to admit mistakes? Are you gloomy or optimistic?
In choosing a mate or preparing for marriage you need to know yourself first, then your mate. you necessarily do not have to look for your twin in personality because there can never be!but you can honestly look for a mate that his or her personality will compliment yours. for instance, if you are a gloomy or pessimistic kind, what do you think would happen if you marry someone with the same nature? or if you are quick tempered, what will be the out if you marry someone of the same nature and a quarrel or misunderstanding arises between the both of you? when you have traits that needs to work on, its best you work on it before going into marriage because it might poss a challenge to your marriage. no matter how deep rooted your flaws are, with strong determination and effort, you will always conquer. you need to change your personality especially the faulty ones and put on a new one that will compliment your mate.

To be continued...